The Power Of Focus
Did you ever notice that when you spend some time thinking about a big purchase - something that you're really excited about getting - that after a while, its ALL you see? I remember every time I've bought a car, whenever I get close to the final decision, literally
all I see on the road is the car I want to get. And it usually keeps looking cooler the closer I get to picking up the vehicle. Then do you notice how, once you've had the car for a while, you stop noticing them on the road so much? It starts to fade into the background of your mind while something else takes over.
See, your life is like that too.
Whatever you focus on becomes your reality.
Think about that for a second. Whatever you focus on becomes your reality. The most successful people in the world have mastered their sense of focus, whether its Tiger Woods focussing on a match winning putt, Pavarotti focussing on hitting the precice, right note, or Warren Buffet focussing on his portfolio of companies. All these people have one thing in common - they have a laser-like focus on their goals.
So have a look at your list of goals... you
HAVE written them down right??!? Choose the one that would
most impact your life in a positive way, and start devoting your focus to attaining that goal. Once you give your goal your focus, you'll be shocked at the progress you make towards it.
Until next time - here's to your success!
What do you value?
In our lives we do all sorts of things. And if you’re like most people, you’re not doing 100% of "The Right Things", 100% of the time. Well, we all get off track from time to time… that’s life! But its how – and, quite frankly if – we get back on track that separates the winners from the losers.
So how do we know if we’re on track?
Well, the interesting thing is – only you can tell if you're on track or not. Are you on the right track? Before you answer, let me ask a clarifying question. Is your life in synch with your
values?
Values are really neat things. They are usually defined for you by your family and communities. But you can also shape them yourself. And the best part is, you get the final say in what values you keep and what values you push aside. Because the thing is – your values help define who you are at the core of your very being. We get along with people because they share similar values to us – and also, the converse is true. The good news is, once you realize and accept this, its all the easier for you to not get too caught up with someone you disagree with. You simply realize they have different values than you, acknowledge it and move on. It really is that simple. But there is a small catch. You have to have a clear idea –
a clear vision – of what your values are. …or what you
want them to be.
Without this clear vision, all you have are ideas.
So what are your values? Think on this question. If you’re having difficulty, choose a value and try it on for size. Does it feel right? Where does it sit in the priority of your other values?
See, when you know what your values are, and you can list off the top 5, then you can choose goals that are in line with those values. Everything just seems to fit into place better. Have you ever tried to set a goal that you just couldn’t move towards? Chances are, you were either deathly afraid of succeeding in that goal – or it didn’t match your values. Values tend to provide you with the “
Why” of why you’re doing something. They also make a great reference point for you on those days when you’ve hit the wall for the 100th time and you’re wondering why you keep doing what you’re doing!
So take some time, and think about your values. Think about what makes you tick. Once you have a good blueprint, start looking at the parts of your life that aren’t quite right. Chances are, they don’t quite fit with your values. The good news is, you can alter that part of your life to fit your values, or ditch it altogether. Its up to you.
What are your values? What are you about?
Challenge yourself to find out!
What Holds Us Back?
Inside each of us there is a latent desire to be somewhere we are not. To be someone whom we are not. Inside everyone is a kernel of dissatisfaction with our present circumstances. In an informal poll of people with whom you have an adequate level of rapport, it is almost guaranteed that they will admit a level of dissatisfaction with some - or perhaps many - areas of their life.
So why then, do so few people seem to actually
do anything about their dissatisfaction?
The funny thing is, most people have very little problem taking care of the simple and small things. I'm feeling hungry, so I eat. I don't like the way my kitchen is not clean, so I clean it.
These examples may seem paltry and simplistic - but therein lies their beauty. They serve as shining examples of how we tackle and eliminate dissatisfaction. The neat thing is wee get rid of ALL dissatisfaction
the same way. By
doing something about our present circumstances.
So if its that simple - I restate the question: Why do people live with dissatisfaction?
Well - I'm guessing the answer to that question is many-faceted. But in most cases, I'd say the underlying answer is fear. Fear is one of our strongest motivators. Fear is the voice that says to us, "if I try to change my circumstances... I might fail... that would be bad... but what if I succeed?? THEN what would be expected of me??" The uncomfortable thought of success leads a lot of people to undershoot their expectations of themselves. What's worse, is that nobody really wants to admit to a fear of success - it sounds crazy! But the fact remains... its a roadblock for many people.
So if you're looking at a situation where a fear of success may be holding you back, ask yourself - really
ask yourself - so what
if I succeed?? Do you really think that bad things will come of your success? Or will it improve your life? Will it move you one step closer to your goal. Move you one step further along the path of your deliberate life? Chances are, all the things you think could go sideways, are way off base. So challenge yourself. Face the fear. Do it anyway!
Our Greatest Fear
Marianne Williamson from her book "A Return to Love"Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate,
but that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, handsome, talented and fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us.
It is not just in some; it is in everyone.
And, as we let our own light shine, we consciously give
other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our fear,
our presence automatically liberates others.
Let your own light shine!!!
